Are you experiencing abuse?

It is important to recognise the signs of an abusive relationship. Sometimes it can be hard to know if you experiencing abuse. The following information is intended to help those who wonder if they are being abused.

Contact us for support in confidence if you feel that you or someone you know is being subjected to one of these forms of abuse.

Read stories from male survivors.

1. Constant repetitive criticism:

Putting you down, telling you, “you are useless, not a good father, son, brother, provider, the way you look”, you feel you can’t do anything right.

2. Controlling behaviour:

Checking your location, your phone, mileage on your car. Demanding to know where you are and who you are with at all times.

3. Isolation:

Isolating you from your family/ friends. Telling you why your family/ friends are not good for you and criticising your family/ friends. Threatening that he/ she will leave you and take your children if you disobey him/ her or that no one will believe you (coercive control).

4. Extreme jealousy:

Accusing you of looking at other women/ men or not siding with her/ his opinion.

5. Psychological abuse:

False accusations: Threatening to tell your employer/ family/ friends that you are the abuser.
Second wave abuse: He/ She will use the children and the courts as another form of abuse.

6. Threat of violence or actual violence.