Domestic Violence

Don’t let the term domestic violence mislead you – it doesn’t always mean physical violence. It could be verbal or emotional; for instance when your partner tells you, you are worthless a bad father or is continually calling you derogatory names.

It could be controlling behaviour or coercive control; finding ways to keep you from doing what you want to do, by taking your car keys or tracking your communications, by checking your mobile phone, social media or making threats against you. It could be economical; not allowing you to have access to finances or a job. It could be through constant intimidation; continually yelling or slamming doors. Or, it could be isolating; keeping you from family and friends. It can also incorporate “second wave abuse”, using the courts or your children for example to punish you.

And, yes, it can mean physical violence as well; punching, hitting with objects, kicking or pushing.

Domestic Violence can also be inflicted by a family member. “Family Violence” is where the perpetrator is a member of your family who you reside with, ie. Adult Child to Parents, Adult Sibling, Parent to Adult Child or IPV (Intimate Partner Violence, regardless of whether the couple are married, reside together or have children).

If this sounds a little too familiar, you’re not alone. Thousands of men struggle with abuse and/or control in their relationships. You may feel you are stuck in this abusive relationship. You know what is happening is not right, but you don’t know what else to do. In fact, you’ve probably asked yourself the same questions.

What can I do? Why is this happening? How can I protect my children? Will I be believed?

 

We at AnyMan specialise in supporting Men experiencing Domestic Violence, whether this is ongoing or in a past relationship. We provide specialist counselling, practical information and legal options, while respecting and supporting you in all your decisions should you decide to leave or stay in the relationship.